“For better or for worse, until death do us part” is the oath that underlies our ideas about love. One partner for life is the ideal that everyone should strive for, and only he or she can give happiness.

Or not? What does such an attitude actually give? A sense of security? Comfort? A sense of uniqueness? But most importantly, did we choose it ourselves?

Masha Halevi is an Israeli sex educator and non-monogamous relationship coach. She lived in a traditional marriage without betrayal and conflict for fifteen years, and on the threshold of her fortieth birthday, she suddenly felt that life was over and would never again become unpredictable and interesting.

“I didn’t want to die without having more sexual adventures with other people, without once again experiencing the feeling of falling in love, a desire that would take my breath away, that would permeate my whole body and make my head spin.”

Masha Khalevy is married now, but for the last eight years she has been in an open relationship with several partners. In the book, she describes her own difficult path to polyamory, and also tells the stories of her readers and summarizes her experience as a consultant.

The material is supplemented by research data from biologists, sociologists and psychiatrists. The conclusions that scientists come to are capable of destroying all romantic stereotypes. It turns out that marriages of convenience are stronger and happier than those concluded for love. Women are no less inclined to polygamy than men, and for animals it is even the norm. Even such a poetic symbol as swan fidelity is just a beautiful myth.

“Imagine how many psychologists, sexologists and couples therapy specialists are trying to fix something that is most likely not broken at all. It is quite possible that we should not experience passion for the same partner throughout our lives, we are not obliged to feel eternally in love with one person within the framework of monogamy.”

You start a relationship — does this mean that from now on you will only feel attraction to your partner? And when you get married, do you really want to spend the rest of your life with one person — that is, on average, more than sixty years? Or are we talking about serial monogamy? But the main thing is — which option will make you happy? And are you ready to accept that there are many more options than one?

Masha Khalevy discusses why the model of life with one partner has become the norm, what are its advantages and disadvantages, what alternatives exist and how a couple can come to an agreement. The author raises issues of jealousy and betrayal, sexuality and motherhood, trust and empathy, considers the erotic, social and economic aspects of marriage. The book does not fight the monogamous model and does not promote polyamory as a new norm. The author rather invites the reader to a dialogue and, most importantly, calls for complete awareness of your own choice — whatever it may be.

“Only you know (or maybe you don’t know yet) what suits you. As with any lifestyle or relationship, something may suit some people and not others. Everything is natural and everything is allowed, as long as it suits you and does not harm others."

You will learn:
How do polyamorous people deal with jealousy? Is love possible without possessiveness?
Why are people supposed to be monogamous and is it so easy from a scientific point of view?
Is cheating always the end of a relationship? Is it possible to be in love with two people at the same time?
Is there a true and completely transparent monogamy?
What types of relationships are accepted in different societies and how does this relate to the concept of happiness?
For whom
For those who are ready to consider issues of marriage and sexuality from a new angle. For those who are dissatisfied with their relationship model and are looking for a solution. It will help you understand the nature of cheating and take a new look at your boundaries.